Helpful tips for giving a Eulogy
Remember you are not alone and you can lean on family or close friends to help you if your emotions get the better of you.Regardless of how stoic or in control you feel you are, prepare for this possibility, as things can change when the moment is upon you.
Ask a friend or family member who may be a step removed from the deceased to stand by. In the event that you find it too challenging to continue, they can step in without any disruption. Ask them to rehearse the speech also. Sometimes, just knowing they’re there can be of great comfort and help you continue.
Print Your Speech.Have your speech printed in large, easy to read double spaced type printed on a single side of the paper, or arranged on palm cards. In the event you become a little emotional, or nervous and flustered, it will be easy to keep track of where you are at and what you wish to say. Also, if your stand-in does take over, it will be easy for them to pick up where you left off.
Keep Tissues Handy.
It’s a good idea to keep some tissues handy. Don’t be afraid to acknowledge and show your feelings, even if that means a few tears. Just take your time and continue as you feel you are ready.
Pause and Breathe.
If you feel yourself choking up, just pause, look up to the back of the room above the congregation and take some deep breaths. Don’t rush or feel self-conscious. Everyone is there to support you.
Rehearse Several Times.
Practice reading your speech out loud several times in the days prior to the service, in exactly the way you plan to deliver it. This will really help you maintain composure on the day.
Keep it Short.
Keep the duration of the speech to around 3 – 5 minutes. It can be hard for people to follow if it’s too long and if you do become emotional it can be harder to get through. If you would like to cover more detail, consider multiple speakers. Each person could choose a different aspect of the deceased’s life or character to focus on.
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